5 gay friends you just don’t need

10846407_10154950734695191_4901211911036804349_nFriends are important. So you wanna be selective in who you choose to let into your inner sanctum. But we get lazy sometimes and end up settling for friendships that aren’t that… special.  Cause like any relationship, friendships are hard fucking work.. Right? Though as you grow into yourself, it gets super easy to spot the flakes.

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6 in 10 Black gay men…


Some alarming facts about HIV and those most at risk popped up in my Facebook newsfeed. The article came from The Advocate and it’s basically an entire op-ed series called #6in10. #6in10 points to stats that reveal 6 in 10 black gay and bi-sexual men in the US will test positive for HIV by the time they’re 40 years old. Reading those words as a black guy is heartbreaking to say the very least. And even more fucked are some of the contributing factors. Some really out of the norm stuff. Like gay dating racism. Who thought this could be as far reaching? I surely didn’t.  Continue reading

A Week in PTown

IMG_2087I made it through a short four day work week.. After a pulsating prior week in Provincetown! Not sure how I survived but this has to be the best gay getaway in North America. Not that I’ve been to many. But I can’t see myself wanting more of anything . Other than to go back. 

This was my second visit but the experience was totally new. So I figured I might as well talk about it!

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Be Empowered & Be You!

balloonsPride’s over and its safe to say that I’ve fully recovered.. 4 days later. And although the rain kept me from going ‘all out’ as planned, it was probably the best pride I’ve had in my short Pride going history (4 years). What made it  wasn’t so much the parties, yummy bears and fierce beats but more so a sudden wave of self empowerment and self awareness. Continue reading


Queer Black History: Patrick Kelly- Fashion in Perspective

PKPKPatrick Kelly was a Mississippi born fashion aficionado who rose to fame in Paris in the 1980’s for his eccentric yet elegant women’s designs. His creations were worn by the likes of Princess Diana, Bette Davis, Grace Jones, Jane Seymour and Madonna to name a few. He was adored in the Paris fashion world and was the first American to be voted into elite Parisian fashion designers society Chambre Syndicale joining the likes of Yves Saint Laurent, Karl Lagerfeld and Christian Lacroix among others.

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Queer Black History

Black History Month MQA


With all that’s happened to the Black Community lately, I’ve been feeling a void. A void for justice, for racial harmony, for more queer-positive role models of colour… From the Michael Brown murder to the proceeding Ferguson Riots and Black Lives Matter movement to the epic failure of the Academy Awards in their decision not to nominate more actors and directors of colour; it feels like the etchings of a new Civil Rights Movement. One in which not only minorities, women and the disabled have a voice but also the LGBT community- specifically our Transgendered brothers and sisters.

So my contribution to this new unified movement is to shine a light on some queer specific black brilliance. Lately way too much of my time has been spent feeling jilted about the outright racist bullshit that’s happened and continues to happen in our society. So this month I’ll be spotlighting black LGBT identified powerhouses that left a unique mark on the worlds of fashion, art, music, political activism and mainstream culture.

Stay tuned!