Interracial Dating.. Is it racial betrayal?

BLMTOTension around race is extremely high right now pretty much everywhere. Especially with Uncle Donald edging for the Presidency like Claire Underwood and BLM gaining tremendous momentum in normally quaint cities like Toronto where the subject’s usually delicately avoided. You can’t deny it and will sooner or later have to assert your position on the issue. Especially if you’re black-how could you not? So am I wrong to question where I stand in the mix given my attraction to the opposite race and the thin line between fighting against racism and participating in it?

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5 Things You Should Get Rid of this Spring

Articles with count-down titles irritate me a bit- they  lack creativity (i.e. it’s lazy) and they’re severely played out.  But it being the first day of spring and all, I figured a top 5 list might be in order.  If you’re like me and haven’t focused on those self-affirming new years resolutions to be a better you, Spring’s your chance to step up, clear the clutter and do you.. Kicking these 5 things would probably help with that.

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Queer Black History: Jackie Shane

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 Rhythm and Blues singer Jackie Shane rose to fame in the early 1960’s in Montreal and amassed a huge Toronto fan base. While his rise to fame could be credited to his Canadian following, Jackie was born and raised in Nashville Tennessee and grew up around music. The home of country music developed a growing jazz movement in the 1950’s and in his teenage years, Jackie lived with Nashville’s Queen of the Blues Marion James.

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Hook-Up Etiquette #101

The point of hooking up is that you don’t have to commit to pointless conversations, uncomfortable eye contact or anything other than sex. If I wanted something meaningful I probably won’t  have you over at 11 pm the first time we meet. So why do guys make a simple one time deal to shag a sordid 10 mins of  awkward head to elbow collisions?

Hooking-up should be a negotiation between two people where you both agree on how things are gonna play out.  You won’t make a major life decision without negotiating the pro’s & cons. Same should apply to hooking up. It’s bad enough I’m about to offer up my goodies for the sake of getting off. Might as well make sure I get my jollies worth.

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5 gay friends you just don’t need

10846407_10154950734695191_4901211911036804349_nFriends are important. So you wanna be selective in who you choose to let into your inner sanctum. But we get lazy sometimes and end up settling for friendships that aren’t that… special.  Cause like any relationship, friendships are hard fucking work.. Right? Though as you grow into yourself, it gets super easy to spot the flakes.

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6 in 10 Black gay men…

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Some alarming facts about HIV and those most at risk popped up in my Facebook newsfeed. The article came from The Advocate and it’s basically an entire op-ed series called #6in10. #6in10 points to stats that reveal 6 in 10 black gay and bi-sexual men in the US will test positive for HIV by the time they’re 40 years old. Reading those words as a black guy is heartbreaking to say the very least. And even more fucked are some of the contributing factors. Some really out of the norm stuff. Like gay dating racism. Who thought this could be as far reaching? I surely didn’t.  Continue reading