Hook-Up Etiquette #101

The point of hooking up is that you don’t have to commit to pointless conversations, uncomfortable eye contact or anything other than sex. If I wanted something meaningful I probably won’t  have you over at 11 pm the first time we meet. So why do guys make a simple one time deal to shag a sordid 10 mins of  awkward head to elbow collisions?

Hooking-up should be a negotiation between two people where you both agree on how things are gonna play out.  You won’t make a major life decision without negotiating the pro’s & cons. Same should apply to hooking up. It’s bad enough I’m about to offer up my goodies for the sake of getting off. Might as well make sure I get my jollies worth.

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5 gay friends you just don’t need

10846407_10154950734695191_4901211911036804349_nFriends are important. So you wanna be selective in who you choose to let into your inner sanctum. But we get lazy sometimes and end up settling for friendships that aren’t that… special.  Cause like any relationship, friendships are hard fucking work.. Right? Though as you grow into yourself, it gets super easy to spot the flakes.

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6 in 10 Black gay men…


Some alarming facts about HIV and those most at risk popped up in my Facebook newsfeed. The article came from The Advocate and it’s basically an entire op-ed series called #6in10. #6in10 points to stats that reveal 6 in 10 black gay and bi-sexual men in the US will test positive for HIV by the time they’re 40 years old. Reading those words as a black guy is heartbreaking to say the very least. And even more fucked are some of the contributing factors. Some really out of the norm stuff. Like gay dating racism. Who thought this could be as far reaching? I surely didn’t.  Continue reading

A Week in PTown

IMG_2087I made it through a short four day work week.. After a pulsating prior week in Provincetown! Not sure how I survived but this has to be the best gay getaway in North America. Not that I’ve been to many. But I can’t see myself wanting more of anything . Other than to go back. 

This was my second visit but the experience was totally new. So I figured I might as well talk about it!

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Be Empowered & Be You!

balloonsPride’s over and its safe to say that I’ve fully recovered.. 4 days later. And although the rain kept me from going ‘all out’ as planned, it was probably the best pride I’ve had in my short Pride going history (4 years). What made it  wasn’t so much the parties, yummy bears and fierce beats but more so a sudden wave of self empowerment and self awareness. Continue reading