A Week in PTown

IMG_2087I made it through a short four day work week.. After a pulsating prior week in Provincetown! Not sure how I survived but this has to be the best gay getaway in North America. Not that I’ve been to many. But I can’t see myself wanting more of anything . Other than to go back. 

This was my second visit but the experience was totally new. So I figured I might as well talk about it!

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Be Empowered & Be You!

balloonsPride’s over and its safe to say that I’ve fully recovered.. 4 days later. And although the rain kept me from going ‘all out’ as planned, it was probably the best pride I’ve had in my short Pride going history (4 years). What made it  wasn’t so much the parties, yummy bears and fierce beats but more so a sudden wave of self empowerment and self awareness. Continue reading

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Queer Black History: Patrick Kelly- Fashion in Perspective

PKPKPatrick Kelly was a Mississippi born fashion aficionado who rose to fame in Paris in the 1980’s for his eccentric yet elegant women’s designs. His creations were worn by the likes of Princess Diana, Bette Davis, Grace Jones, Jane Seymour and Madonna to name a few. He was adored in the Paris fashion world and was the first American to be voted into elite Parisian fashion designers society Chambre Syndicale joining the likes of Yves Saint Laurent, Karl Lagerfeld and Christian Lacroix among others.

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Queer Black History

Black History Month MQA

 

With all that’s happened to the Black Community lately, I’ve been feeling a void. A void for justice, for racial harmony, for more queer-positive role models of colour… From the Michael Brown murder to the proceeding Ferguson Riots and Black Lives Matter movement to the epic failure of the Academy Awards in their decision not to nominate more actors and directors of colour; it feels like the etchings of a new Civil Rights Movement. One in which not only minorities, women and the disabled have a voice but also the LGBT community- specifically our Transgendered brothers and sisters.

So my contribution to this new unified movement is to shine a light on some queer specific black brilliance. Lately way too much of my time has been spent feeling jilted about the outright racist bullshit that’s happened and continues to happen in our society. So this month I’ll be spotlighting black LGBT identified powerhouses that left a unique mark on the worlds of fashion, art, music, political activism and mainstream culture.

Stay tuned!

Good Bad Decisions?

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So we’ve all heard the adage “the best indicator of future choices is past decisions”, or something like that? I always thought it was just another thing people say as a scare tactic.. Like if you whack it too much you’ll go blind. But I’ve just come to realize that it’s sorta true. Not the whacking part mind you; it’s related to he most recent “situation” I’ve landed myself in. And it has to do with guys and the patterns we form for the “type” of guy we think we want.

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Racial Preferences

Preference: “a greater liking for one alternative over another or others”

Racism: “the belief that all members of each race possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races”

I stumbled across this video a few days ago and it’s been playing on my thoughts ever since. As a “black guy”, I can’t say how many times I’ve been slapped in the face with this. Both from potential dates and from friends. I never quite understood racism; far less racism in the LGBT community. But as far as this video goes, it raises some important questions. Is having a racial preference necessarily prejudice? And when does a preference move from genuine adoration to deliberate exclusion due to racial features?

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